Visioform Personal Growth Resources

It suddenly struck me
that that tiny pea, pretty and blue,
was the Earth.

I put up my thumb and shut one eye,
and my thumb blotted out the planet Earth.
I didn’t feel like a giant.
I felt very, very small.

- Neil Armstrong

If a nation or an individual values
anything more than freedom,
it will lose its freedom;
and the irony is
that if it is comfort or money
it values more,
it will lose that too.

W. Somerset Maugham, 1874 - 1965

Do you know what you value in your life? What is your vision?

If you want to get clearer on your priorities, the free course on FINDING YOUR VISION AND LIVING YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE may be of help.

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• how to find your life purpose and create your vision and goals
• how to use the capacity of your brain to visualise your goals
• how to identify and remove the blocks that hinder you to achieve your goals
• how to determine the steps to reach your gaols

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To give up our story means taking responsibility for our life, for all that has happened to us, and for all that we have made out of it. To do this, it is often necessary to broaden our perspectives from the level of the personality to that of the soul, which is the higher plan that guides our fate.

To see the events in a new light, you must give up your story. The first step is to trace how you produce the events that happen over and over again. This requires some practice, especially when your life’s guiding principle is that others are responsible for your suffering.

The second step is to find out how you produce the situations that happen to you over and over again. People tend to evade the answer to this question by making general statements. The devil sits in the details, particularly in the feelings that are connected to the details. Feelings are the glue that holds together painful and unpleasant memories. We would like to bypass them by making general statements.

The third step is to move back into the situations that lie at the root of the ‘evil’. In my sessions with clients, I invite their Higher Self to join me. The Higher Self is a bridge between soul and mind and is an expression of the True Self or core of the person. It is closer to the truth than our Ego, for whom it is more important to save face than know the truth.

I ask the Higher Self to lead us back into the situation where we can find the key for the present experience. This key opens the door to what lies underneath the outward symptoms, diseases or problematic life strategies. Such a situation could be a familiar repetitive incident from childhood, which now appears in a new light, or a traumatizing experience that has been repressed from consciousness or classified as unimportant.

One such example is the story of a young man who felt that his mother had restricted his spontaneity and vibrant self-expression to the point where he had physical sensations of paralysis and being crushed. In an inner image, this situation presented itself as a large round stone that had been rolled over a tiger and buried its body. As we looked closer, the stone changed into topsoil, which carried a new germ, the germ of a large tree, which was now ready to grow. All the oppressive and constricting forces, which the stone symbolically represented, were at the same time the mother-ground for the unfolding of his potential.

You cannot recognize this side of the story if you look at it from the perspective of the victim. Only if you put the story into a larger context, if you shift your perspective, can you value the gift that is hidden in it. When you acknowledge and appreciate the positive intent, you can liberate yourself from the entanglements of the past.

In cases where the experiences cut so deeply and were so painful that they are repressed from consciousness, it will take longer to reach the source. You will probably need some guidance, or undertake your own training and practice. Our inner wisdom opens the door to the unconscious only when we are one hundred percent ready to see the truth. A part of the work is just bringing our resistance into conscious awareness. Resistance is another word for fear. Fear has many faces: Fear of the unknown, fear of responsibility or of being held responsible. We are afraid to change our life and to let go of attachments. And we fear that we will not know who we are without our familiar story.

All these fears are legitimate because they carry a grain of truth. It is important to acknowledge and appreciate them, without getting trapped by them or surrendering our power to them. If we dare to look at them, they lose their power and terror. Upon closer inspection, we find out that underneath the threatening fantasies are events which, seen in the light of day, are human. The knowledge relieves and liberates us.

A child interprets events according to the mental capacities that are available at the time when traumatic experiences occur. As adults we are more able to accept human limits. To the degree to which we develop understanding and sympathy for our own weaknesses, we can also accept that our parents or the other important people of our childhood were not perfect. At this point we allow ourselves to see the larger truth and say good-bye to our story. At this point we attain the freedom to bring about overdue changes, to dare the new and to take responsibility for our life.

If you want to larn more about it, check out my Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’

It will help you to discover the four pillars of how to grow joy in your life

Expect the best,
plan for the worst,
and prepare to be surprised.

Denis Waitley

A friend who is far away
is sometimes much nearer
than one who is at hand.

Is not the mountain
far more awe-inspiring
and more clearly visible to one
passing through the valley
than to those who inhabit the mountain?

Kahlil Gibran, 1883 - 1931

Holding and appreciating someone in our heart for many people feels to be harder than having physical closeness. This has to do with your understanding of relationships.

If you want to check out how healthy your perceptions are, use thefree course on Creating healthy relationships

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the difference between delight and fright in relationships
• the difference between co-dependent and healthy relationships skills
• how to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in relationships
• how to overcome codependent patterns and develop healthy relationship skills

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A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer,
it sings because it has a song.

Maya Angelou

Are you singing your song?

The book Growing through Joy provides you with the necessary tools.

To sing your song, learn to

• breathe and pulse in your natural way to build up your energy level
• connect with your Higher Self
• remove blockages to your fulfilment
• let go of the past and live in the here and now
• stop being a victim
• get clear on your vision and goals in life
• understand the higher meaning of painful life experiences and to use them to build your inner strength
• stop hurting yourself
• broaden your consciousness and increase your practical intelligence
• set clear boundaries for your protection
• let go of painful childhood experiences
• know your limitations and how to expand them
• improve your physical health and energy level
• release tensions and relax deeply
• see through your own games and the games others play
• use the power of your mind to create the reality that you want
• use the power of your inner guide for direction
• make powerful choices that magically draw into your life the resources you need
• change the monsters of your life (fears, terror, anger, inner criticism) into allies

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It is so easy to see the world in terms of black and white. Our leaders tell us it is so, given that they can do no wrong and that all challengers would be a disaster.

Our media tell us it is so, by pitting extremes against one another.

Multiple choice questions throughout our school days lead us to believe there is only one right answer to every question (and that all the others are wrong).

But the real world just is not like that. I have met a lot of people in my life, just as you have. I don’t think I have met a genuinely evil person yet. Nor have I met anyone who is faultless.

And when I think something is right or wrong, I know that someone else can always make a persuasive article to the contrary. That does not mean I will change my mind, but it does mean that the other person and his “wrong” opinion deserve respect.

Imagine a world in shades of gray, where we can see the good in everybody. Isn’t gray (and grey!) a beautiful color?

The danger of the past was
that men became slaves.
The danger of the future is
that men may become robots.

Eric Fromm

The following text is taken from the book: Growing through Joy. You can buy this book as a printed version (in Europe) or as an ebook overseas

If you pay attention to repetitive patterns in your life, you will probably notice that a particular theme keeps coming back and that it extends from small to big events. For example, if your challenge is to feel betrayed or taken advantage of by others, you may encounter such situations when you go to the bakery to pick up rolls, and also in your personal relationships and in financial agreements with business partners.

In the course of life, you throw light on such a pattern from different angles until you deeply understand them and are willing to let them go.

Earlier in my life, I had often wondered why the same kind of incidents continued to happen to me, despite all my precautions, insights and changes. My personal story was a chain of wrecked relationships with men.

In the course of time, as I pondered on the repetitive nature of these events, I became aware that life confronts us with particular lessons, which appear in different guises. They are key events, which point us the way to our inner core. Since these events are often painful and entail a lot of suffering, I found it first impossible and then difficult to perceive them as positive. From my own work with many clients, I know how resistant people are to the idea that their material, emotional or mental misery may be a reflection of their world within and a signpost to the true self. It seems much simpler to blame others for it.

However blaming others does not save us from the suffering. If we take on responsibility for our agony and misery, if we therefore accept ourselves as the creator of this condition, then we may accept that we can just as well create a good and fulfilled life. We can choose to do this with grace and ease or effort and torment.

Many people in our culture believe that something is only worthwhile if it takes effort and work. It is as if they need sufficient agony stamps before they can grant themselves the good things of life.

We need to become aware that this thinking is part of our Christian inheritance and is not the law of the Universal Mind. In the conscious universe, the responsibility is laid in our own hands.

In this context, responsibility means freedom, the freedom of choice.

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That depends entirely on you. There are many things that happen in your life, some good, some bad, some easy, some hard. But your life is about you and the choices you make. It is not about what happens to you and around you; it is about how you react to those events.

I offer a free course on POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR MONEY, LOVE AND HEALTH

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the importance of positive affirmations for a self empowered and fulfilled life
• how to shift negative mind talk around health, love and money
• how to create your own positive beliefs

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