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Don’t ever take a fence down
until you know the reason
why it was put up.

Gilbert Keith Chesterton, 1874 - 1936

There is an old saying which points to the importance of learning from experience

Our wisdom comes from our experience,
and our experience comes from our foolishness.

If you have been told that making mistakes is a sign for being imperfect, forget about it. It only lowers your self esteem.

Forgive yourself your mistakes; they are lessons in wisdom.

If you find that hard to do, use the free course on OVERCOMING DEPRESSION AND IMPROVING SELF ESTEEM.

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• how to control negative self talk and change your selfimage
• how to establish positive affirmations
• how to expand the filters of your brain
• how to use abdominal breathing and body position to improve self esteem and lift depression
• how to befriend your inner judge and
• how to take good care of yourself and expand your range of activities.

These are crucial factors that will improve your self esteem and allow you to gain wisdom from your mistakes

Each of us owes it to our spouse,
our children, our friends,
to be as happy as we can be.
And if you don’t believe me,
ask a child
what it’s like to grow up
with an unhappy parent,
or ask parents
what they suffer
if they have an unhappy child.

< Dennis Prager, Happiness is a Serious Problem

We usually grow up with lots of criticism, and it takes a conscious effort to be a happy parent

The Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’ will help you to discover the four pillars of how to grow joy in your life

Get a taste

Your self confidence affects just about everything in your life. How well you get along with people, your relationships with friends and family, as well as your job opportunities are all directly affected by how confident you feel about yourself. In fact, how confident you feel affects how well you enjoy your life!

People that don’t feel good about themselves, people that lack self confidence, can find the prospect of a job interview terrifying. They experience poor relationships, if they have any real relationships at all. They find themselves in constant fear of losing their jobs because they aren’t able to express themselves in front of their boss of in group situations.

Socially these people also struggle. How can they find someone to go out with when the mere idea of meeting new people petrifies them? Social events and encounters are painful illustrations of their lack of confidence.

Life doesn’t have to be like this. With a change in perspective, a little help and some work, you can have the self confidence you desire. Here are seven simple steps to help you develop more self confidence.

1. Decide to make a Change
Once they’ve decided, nearly everyone finds making a change easier. Every change I’ve ever made, from getting in shape to learning how to be more personable, has been a result of deciding to make that change. All changes are relatively easy once you’ve decided to make them. So if you think you’d like to be more confident, make the decision to be more confident today. That leads us to step number two.

2. Why is it Important to You?
Once you’ve made a decision to change, in this case deciding to become more confident, its time to figure out why it’s important to you. Why specifically do you want more confidence? Is it so that you can speak up in meetings at work? Is it so that you’ll be able to meet someone to go out with? Is it so you’ll be able to learn better at school or play a sport better? Whatever it is you need to understand and define it so that you can motivate yourself with it. This leads to step three.

3. Make it a Goal
Here’s where the rubber meets the road. Many people know they need to change and decide to change. They know what result they want out of the change but they don’t make it a goal. They wish their life would change, they think their life should change but they don’t take the steps needed to make the change. When you make a goal you not only decide what you want your outcome to be but you also figure out the steps you will need to do to achieve it.

Now this can’t be merely a mental exercise. In order to make your goal achievable you need to write down your outcome. Once you’ve written down your outcome you need to write down the steps you need to do to achieve it. Writing down your goal and the steps you need to achieve it does two things for you. First it makes your goal a real tangible thing instead of merely a dream. Second, writing down the steps gives you the ability to make corrections as necessary to help you stay on track.

For example your outcome is to be able to speak up more in business meetings. Your outcome might be “I will express my opinion in every business meeting.” The steps you might outline to achieving this goal might be:

1. Prepare for meetings and know what topics are going to be discussed. 2. Talk to someone or find someone to model who speaks well at meetings you attend. (See step 4) 3. Prepare a one-line comment on one of the topics. 4. Practice what you will say in the theater of your mind (see step 5) 5. Express your comment at the meeting.

Now you have a goal that is achievable you might need some help. So that leads us to step 4.

4. Find Someone to Model
From the time we are babies we model other people’s actions and behaviors. Have you ever done something and after noticing what you’ve done said to yourself, That is exactly what my mother/father would have done? That is a form of modeling, just at an unconscious level.

A more empowering form of modeling is when you find someone that has the characteristic(s) you want to have and purposefully model it. If you want to be able to speak well in front of groups, find someone who is good at speaking in front of groups and model her behavior. See how she stands, how she holds her head, how she speaks and uses her hands. If you are a man looking for a way to meet women, find a man who is already good at meeting women and model his behavior. What does he say? How does he dress? What are his mannerisms?

Whatever it is, there are lots of models to choose from. They include friends, acquaintances, family members, professional coaches, training videos and just about anyone else on the planet. An important point to remember is that the best model is one you like and you are able to adapt your own personality to.

Once you have someone to model its time for step five.

5. Visualize Your Success
From master pianists to NASCAR drivers, all people who are good at something have one thing in common, they practice. If you want to be good at talking in front of people you have to practice. If you want to be good at conversing in social situations you have to practice. Of course if you go about whatever you want to do without rehearsing it can be quite nerve wracking. In fact if you try something that you are not good at yet and fail completely it is possible your progress might be set back indefinitely.

So how can you prepare for a successful outcome? You can visualize your success in the theater of your mind. Let’s say you want to be able to speak up at business meetings. Find a place where you can sit or lie down comfortably without being disturbed. Now relax. Use some progressive muscle relation or just tell yourself I am relaxed and calm, relaxed and calm, over and over again until you are relaxed and calm.

Now play a movie in your mind of how you would like for the events to transpire. Make the movie as vivid and clear as possible. Use your imagination to see the details, hear the voices and other sounds in the room. Feel how you would sit. Then in your mind address the group as if you already had the confidence you are striving to develop. Notice how you appear, how your heart beats, how you breathe. Make the adjustments necessary to achieve the outcome you desire. If you are having problems seeing yourself accomplishing the task(s) well, focus on the why, the potential benefits you’ll get from achieving your goal. Practice over and over again until you have that image etched firmly in your mind.

Once you’ve practiced with visualization it’s time for step six.

6. Go Do It
You’ve decided to change. You know the reason(s) you want to change. You know your motivation. You have a model and you’ve prepared in the theater of your mind. Now its time to give it a try. If what you want to do is speak in your business meetings at work, give it a try. Even if it’s only a few words or to comment on someone else’s comments, as long as you are doing something that is moving you toward your goal, just do it. If you are looking to meet more people you might start by smiling at people you meet and saying “hi” You will become more confident through the process of stretching yourself. This will move you toward your goals.

Now that you’ve actually done what you set out to accomplish its time for the final seventh step.

7. Decide that everything is Feedback
When we start new things, from playing a new sport to meeting new people, we are not going to be excellent at it from the very start. Everything takes practice. When you do something you are not good at (yet) you are stretching yourself, you feel uncomfortable and you will make some mistakes.

Developing confidence in whatever it is you want to develop it in will also take practice. And just like learning anything, you will sometimes do things that you may not have preferred to do if you were “perfect” at it. You will make some mistakes.
When that happens remind yourself that mistakes are the way we all learn. A mistake is not failure, it is merely feedback. By calling it feedback you have re-framed or redefined your results.

So from now on instead of thinking of having failed when things don’t work out right merely observe what happens and call them results. Understand the feedback you have been given by your results and apply it to approaching your task differently the next time. The key is to remember that no matter what results you achieve, when you define them as feedback, they become either actions you want to do again or actions you don’t want to do again. You now are experiencing feedback instead of failure.
Once you start seeing your results as feedback you’ll begin adjusting your actions to match what you want to achieve. This will help you persist until you achieve your desired outcome. If you are committed to this process you will be able to build life long confidence in any area of your life.

So Let’s review the seven steps.

1. Decide to change. 2. Decide why it’s Important 3. Understand Your Motivation 4. Find Someone to Model 5. Visualize Success 6. Go Do It 7. Decide that everything is Feedback

That’s it, seven simple steps that can move you toward confidence in any area of you life. Seven easy steps toward achieving more out of life. So what are you waiting for? Why not start on your life long confidence journey today?

by Wil Dieck

About the Author
Wil Dieck is the founder of Total Mind Therapy, a combination of hypnosis, NLP, breathing techniques from the martial arts and visualization used for goal setting. His practice is located in San Diego, California. For more information about Wil and his practice please go to http://www.TotalMindTherapy.net

Yesterday I introduced energetic healing stating that

• Energetic Healing is based on quantum physics.
• Energetic healing aims towards correcting dissonance within the information field of the body that enables the body to heal itself naturally.
• Energetic healing uses a broad spectrum of healing modalities
• Energetic healing addresses body, mind and spirit as an integrated unit
• Energetic healing zooms right into the core of the problem shifting the energetic patterns
• More wonderous, energetic healing works with wave patterns that reach beyond time and space. Therefore, you can use it for distant or remote healing.

Are you wondering how that works?

This is possible because underneath the reality that we are used to see, there is a deeper level of existence that extends itself beyond time and space. Quantum physicists call this reality the quantum field or a holomovement.

Eastern tradition knew about it as the giant web in which each one has an important role to play. Each person makes a difference, be it good or bad.

We all have the capacity to pick up information from a field of knowledge that is invisible to our eyes.

You too! If you are sitting in a room and you suddenly get the idea that you should water the plants, you are actually picking up information from the plants.

We call that capacity intuition. It is a capacity of our right brain to perceive information in a holistic, imaginative language. We all have that capacity available but because our educational system strongly focuses on the rational mind we are not trained to use this capacity consciously.

Just use this day to see how many information you pick up on a fly, kind of half-conscious or as an image or just a knowing. You may be amazed

Energetic Healing is based on quantum physics. From that point of view, any disease, emotional disturbance, conflict or mental problem can be defined as a disruption or distortion within the informational energy field.

Energetic healing aims towards correcting dissonance within the information field of the body that enables the body to heal itself naturally. Besides addressing health problems, energetic healing can also be used for the prevention of health problems by detecting problems in the energetic field before they materialize physically. Problems that easily manifest as bodily symptoms are negative thought forms, conflicts or emotional disorders.

Energetic healing uses a broad spectrum of healing modalities from western and eastern traditions. Among them are body movements, breath techniques, acupuncture, toning, overtone chanting, tuning fork vibrations, light frequencies, creative expression and affirmations.

Energetic healing addresses body, mind and spirit as an integrated unit, rather than treating any of these levels separately.

Energetic healing zooms right into the core of the problem shifting the energetic patterns that keep physical symptoms, destructive emotions, life-depleting habits and negative thought forms in place. It’s like working on the stone that you throw into water rather than working on the ripples that the stone creates on the water.

For that reason, many energy therapies achieve observable and measurable results rapidly and generally without causing undue emotional distress.

Energetic healing works with wave patterns that reach beyond time and space. Therefore, you can use it for distant or remote healing. Personal presence is not required to fully benefit from it.

Sounds weird or fascinating? It’s probably both as our minds are used to think in terms of the visible world, and yet, many people know that there is more.

Are you wondering what’s more? Read on tomorrow or rgo here

I offer a free course on Finding Your Vision And Living Your Life’s Purpose

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• how to find your life purpose and create your vision and goals
• how to use the capacity of your brain to visualise your goals
• how to identify and remove the blocks that hinder you to achieve your goals
• how to determine the steps to reach your gaols

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How can a society
that exists on instant mashed potatoes,
packaged cake mixes,
frozen dinners,
and instant cameras
teach patience to its young?

Paul Sweeney

Do you possess the rare quality of patience?

We need patience and perseverance to overcome deep-rooted patterns of behaviour and beliefs. But how many really demonstrate these qualities nowadays?

Our consumer society teaches us quickies.

The beauty of life unfolds step by step if we take the time and patience to let this happen

I’ve found that luck is quite predictable.
If you want more luck,
take more chances.
Be more active.
Show up more often.

Brian Tracy

Simple? Yes if you are an actively outgoing person. If not you may find that quite difficult

In that case, I offer a range of support :

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

If you want a professional back-up, I offer distance courses on money, love and health that will help you to change the resonance with life-depleting habits and attitudes and create abundance and fulfilment in your life.

Check here for more information

I wanted to change the world.
But I have found
that the only thing
one can be sure of changing
is oneself.

Aldous Leonard Huxley, 1894 - 1963

That has been my life’s experience as well. To support others to get there I put all the tools that I discovered together in one book that you can buy as a pocket book version or an ebook.

The book Growing through Joy or its Ebook version ‘Beyond Suffering’ provides you with tools for transformation on the mental, emotional and physical level.

To get there, learn to

• breathe and pulse in your natural way to build up your energy level
• connect with your Higher Self
• remove blockages to your fulfilment
• let go of the past and live in the here and now
• stop being a victim
• get clear on your vision and goals in life
• understand the higher meaning of painful life experiences and to use them to build your inner strength
• stop hurting yourself
• broaden your consciousness and increase your practical intelligence
• set clear boundaries for your protection
• let go of painful childhood experiences
• know your limitations and how to expand them
• improve your physical health and energy level
• release tensions and relax deeply
• see through your own games and the games others play
• use the power of your mind to create the reality that you want
• use the power of your inner guide for direction
• make powerful choices that magically draw into your life the resources you need
• change the monsters of your life (fears, terror, anger, inner criticism) into allies

Most of us know at least one person who has been diagnosed with depression. Maybe you think that you may have depression? Does how you feel fit the criteria for depression? Clinical depression affects millions of people. Understanding what depression is can be a first step towards getting the right help. Let’s look at some of the facts.
Feelings of sadness are normal. Everyone experiences a blue mood once in a while. Having down days is simply part of life. But when feelings of sadness become your only feelings, and when a blue mood turns into a persistent black cloud, you may be suffering from depression.

Depression is not a mood that can be alleviated by will power. Depression is a mental disorder that can change how you think. It changes your outlook on life and the future. It affects your beliefs and how, and if, you want to interact with others.

So how can you tell the difference between actual clinical depression and normal feelings of sadness. Essentially it’s about intensity and time. The feelings associated with depression are much more intense. Your character and your ability to cope with reality become severely affected. It becomes almost impossible to function on a daily basis.

Typically, the threshold for diagnosing depression is about two weeks. When we experience negative events, it is normal to want to withdraw, and to feel sad. If after a few weeks you are still withdrawn and there is no relief from the sadness, it is possible that you have entered a depressive episode. Untreated depression can last for months to years.

The great news is that depression is very treatable. Traditionally, a combination of therapy and medication is really quite effective. Today an entire range of alternative therapies have shown impressive results at relieving even long standing, serious depression. Some alternative therapies very effective for the treatment of depression are: Emotional freedom Techniques, Tapas Acupressure Technique, Chi Gung, nutritional supplements and a simple thing such as walking are just a few examples.

Depression can happen to anyone. It is not an affliction of those who are weak. Strong people can get depression as well. if you suspect that you may be suffering from depression, remember, the sooner you get help, the sooner you will feel better.

by Harold Ulvaeus

Many people know what’s good for them but they don’t have the self-discipline to let go of bad habits and to establish good habits. Successful people work a lot, not out of duty or greed but because they feel inspired by their own vision and mission in life.

For that reason, I researched and developed for many years the option of distance courses that help to create the self-discipline by optimising the resonance for it.

Within theses courses I shift energetic patterns that keep resistances in place through a broad range of healing modalities such as movement, breathing, colour or sound.

The courses will give you insight into the underlying structure of your attachment to suffering and teach you techniques of how to better deal with it.

With this work, I am delighted to share forty years of research and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation with you to assist you to deal with stress faster, less painful and more effective.

Distance courses work with wave patterns that reach beyond time and space. Personal presence is not required. You can sit comfortably at home and pace the process according to your needs.

The benefit of these courses for you will be to:

• Get clear on what you want for your health, relationships, money issues, work, other areas or life in general
• Gain insight into the underlying structure of those factors that keep the depression in place
• Become aware of your true needs and develop a step-by-step-plan how to bring it into your life
• Transform life-depleting habits that no longer serve you
• Have your resonance transformed and optimised for the attitudes, thought patterns, feelings and habits that will help you to bring joy into your life
• Develop and maintain constructive skills through weekly instructions
• Have professional and peer support to achieve what makes your life fulfilled

The next course will be on Money, starting next week Tuesday, April 10

Check here for

more information on the theme of the sessions

for conditions and prices

for background information on the procedure, feedback and research results

for registration

How about improving life as we return to work after summer vacation?

You can choose to

• improve your self-esteem,
• explore your vision and life’s purpose,
• shift negative attitudes towards money, love and health or
• create healthy relationships

Six sessions each guide you through rewarding tasks

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Every now and again
take a good look at something
not made with hands,
a mountain, a star, the turn of a stream.

There will come to you wisdom
and patience and solace and,
above all,
the assurance that you are not alone in the world.

Sidney Lovett

Love addiction is deeply rooted and culturally supported through the ideal of romantic love.

To break through the illusion, you may need extra help in understanding the dynamics of love addiction and in shifting the energetic patterns that hold the addiction in place so that you can develop healthy relationship patterns and communication skills.

In my book: Book ‘Growing through Joy’ , Ebook version ‘Beyond Suffering’ you find a comprehensive description of the different stages of love with its own qualities and challenges to give you a broader view of the context of love addiciton. You will also find a hands-on manual in this book on how to strengthen a positive Self

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Do you ever wake up in the morning and say, “that was an amazing dream!” Do you ever wonder what your dreams mean? I have been dreaming vividly for years.And I have been asking myself for a long time; what do my dreams mean. I want to share an excerpt from a book that answered so many questions for me.

THE SUBCONSCIOUS MEMORY

The subconscious memory may be the direct cause of certain dreams. When the mind is centered on certain things, the sleeper goes over his life again and again in phantom fashion. He lives over the experiences of his daily life. Very often the ego enlightens the sleeper of some material thing for his own benefit, which he may use advantageously in his waking state, but as he generally looks at the phenomena of dreams as an hallucination of the brain, he allows many a golden opportunity to slip through his fingers because the materialist’s brain cannot grasp things of the spirit. All the knowledge and rubbish of our past live is stored up in the subconscious mind where it remains in minute form. Memory is only the awakening of the subconscious mind, a long and forgotten incident, that has made a deep impression on the mind, is apt to filter through into the conscious state in dreams. In time of illness or when one’s vitality is low, the dream picture of the past is apt to play a very prominent part in one’s sleep. Childhood and long forgotten scenes come up frequently and appear as real and genuine as if they had only happened the previous day. They frequently give the dreamer joy or sorrow, according to the stages he passed through. Even action of past lives may come up into the subconscious. Dreams of running around nude without any feeling of shame may be the memory of a previous existence. Falling from a high cliff or trees. Being chased around by some wild animals may be attributed to a primitive past. Dreaming of primitive people, places and things, only takes the dreamer a step nearer the Stone Age, from whence he came. Instead of looking at these subconscious dreams with horror and dread as some people do they should study them and shape their lives accordingly.

by Tracy Lenyk
The author is a work at home Mom. She has been interested in dreams for many years. For more dream articles and dream ebooks vistit her site http://www.dream2see.com

I offer distance courses on money, love and health with many benefits.

With this work, I am delighted to share forty years of research and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation with you to assist you to deal with stress faster, less painful and more effective.

With this work, I am delighted to share forty years of research and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation with you to assist you to deal with stress faster, less painful and more effective.

Distance courses work with wave patterns that reach beyond time and space. Personal presence is not required. You can sit comfortably at home and pace the process according to your needs.

The benefit of these courses for you will be to:

• Get clear on what you want for your health, relationships, money issues, work, other areas or life in general
• Gain insight into the underlying structure of those factors that keep the suffering in placeBecome aware of your true needs and develop a step-by-step-plan how to bring it into your life
• Transform life-depleting habits that no longer serve you
• Have your resonance transformed and optimised for the attitudes, thought patterns, feelings and habits that will help you to bring joy into your life
• Develop and maintain constructive skills
  through weekly instructions
• Have professional and peer support to achieve what makes your life fulfilled

I think we consider too much the good luck of the early bird,
and not enough the bad luck of the early worm.

Franklin Delano Roosevelt, 1882 - 1945

Well, there is no advantage without disadvantage and vice versa.

We may not always feel that we have the choice to be the early bird or the early worm, and yet it does depend a great deal on our attitude how we like to see the events of our lifes.

To strengthen your choice, I offer a range of support suitable for each pocket:

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

If you want a professional back-up, I offer distance courses on money, love and health that will help you to change the resonance with life-depleting habits and attitudes and create abundance and fulfilment in your life.

Check here for

more information on the theme of the sessions

for conditions and prices

for background information on the procedure, feedback and research results

for registration

Visioform Personal Growth Resources

Positive Affirmations is a unique tool to counter negative thoughts.

If you get up in the morning thinking ’Another rotten day’ your day will turn out quite differently than when you get up thinking: “Another exciting day for wonderful experiences! The reality you meet outside first gets created in your mind.

Use that power to create a self-empowered and fulfilled life

You wonder how?

Use the free course on POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR MONEY, LOVE AND HEALTH

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the importance of positive affirmations for a self empowered and fulfilled life
• how to shift negative mind talk around health, love and money
• how to create your own positive beliefs

If you prefer to learn through books:

The Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’ provides you with background knowledge and self help tools.

Get a taste here

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People from a planet without flowers would think
we must be mad with joy the whole time
to have such things about us.

Iris Murdoch

Yes, this is indeed true. But sometimes we can’t access this source in us that knows this truth.

If you feel depressed and lonely, take a look at the free course on self esteem and coping with depression.

Or read the book ‘Growing through Joy’ that my readers find uplifting and clearing.

You can get the e-book version here for only $18.00