Visioform Personal Growth Resources

I can feel guilty about the past,
apprehensive about the future,
but only in the present can I act.

Abraham Maslow, 1908 - 1970

Abraham Maslow investigated what makes people fulfilled and succesful. Although we know it, many resist it.

Forty years of research, work with thousands of people from all over the world and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation have taught me why

This resistance has many reasons. There are three major reasons that I have come across

1. Christian values program you for suffering.

They are so deeply rooted that they are hard to see and even harder to overcome.

My Ebook “Beyond Suffering” gives you deep insights why we are so stuck on suffering

2. The faster, the better. Our consumer society trains you for ‘quickies’.

In my experience, changing deep-rooted beliefs and habits cannot be done in minutes. It takes a focused and continuous effort.

The Ebook provides the tools how to build your physical and inner strength so that you develop the necessary stamina to move beyond suffering.

3. Our medical and psychotherapeutic system are based on Newtonian principles.

Have you ever wondered why all your work on the physical, emotional and mental level hasn’t really changed basic patterns in your life?

The reason is that energetic patterns hold physical symptoms, emotional disturbances and negative belief systems in place.

For basic shifts to happen your body-mind-system needs rewiring so that all your work gets integrated and synthesised on a higher level of frequency.

The Ebook provides the understanding and the tools how to shift the resonance with life-depleting energy patterns and create a higher level of coherence that we experience as well-being, joy and fulfilment

Christian values, consumer values and Newtonian principles for our health are the bad news.

The good news is: We got other choices.

You want to know which ones? Read more

How many times have you heard those words?

But why not be silly?

Playfulness keeps us feeling young. It reduces stress, keeps us healthy and prolongs life.

Go ahead and be silly. Get yourself some funny movies or good jokes if you find it difficult to get ideas. Then take the courage and try it out.

Silliness may be your path of finding joy in your life.

Mark Twain reminds of of the importance to watch our thoughts

Life does not consist mainly, or even largely,
of facts and happenings.
It consists mainly of the storm of thought
that is forever flowing through one’s head.

What is running through your mind?

If you want to become aware of it, you can choose one of the free courses

You can select to improve your self-esteem, explore your vision and life’s purpose, shift negative attitudes towards money, love and health or learn, how to create healthy relationships

Six sessions each guide you through rewarding tasks

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Albert Schweitzer shares his life experience which is also

I don’t know what your destiny will be,
but one thing I do know:
The only ones among you
who will be really happy
are those who have sought
and found how to serve.

If we truly give from our heart the joy of giving will return to us.

Before we can give to others, we need to give to ourselves. Before we can love others, we need to be able to love us.

This is easier said than done.

Therefore, I offer a range of support:

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

Visioform Personal Growth Resources

A participant in one of the distance courses wrote

“Hi, Ulla,

I would like to let you know how I have been feeling this week. This weekend
I was very depressed. I have had to work hard with myself to lift it.

I went for a long walk, took a flower essence (mustard), and made myself do
some socialising. I,m not sure whether this depression is linked to the H.R.
or just life’s circumstances. As I mentioned before my friendship with a male
friend was looking like it might be developing into something deeper. I have
been waiting for him to contact me, and sort of expecting that he would do so
at the weekend - however he didn’t, and I was disappointed by this, and I
think I was depressed because of that. “

Relationships nowadays are a school for growth. Many of us suffer through this. This doesn’t need to be the case. We can shift those patterns with the technology that is available today.

If you want to investigate emotional patterns, check out the Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’

It will help you to identify negative patterns and discover how to shift to the positive side of life

Order it here.

Your other option is a free course on creating healthy relationships
Register here.

No man was ever so completely skilled
in the conduct of life,
as not to receive
new information from age and experience.

Terence

As bad as physical disease is for the eyes,
there is another disease
which can ruin your relationships.
It is the “I” disease
where your conversation
contains the words, “I” , “me”, “my”, and “mine”,
every eight to tens words.
If these words were removed from most people’s conversation
they would have nothing to say.

Sidney Madwed

We don’t learn how to create healthy relationships in school. And yet, this is an area where most people suffer

Therefore, I created a free course on Creating healthy relationships

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the difference between delight and fright in relationships
• the difference between co-dependent and healthy relationships skills
• how to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in relationships
• how to overcome codependent patterns and develop healthy relationship skills

Register here

Man is the only animal
that laughs and weeps;
for he is the only animal
that is struck with the difference
between what things are
and what they might have been.

William Hazlitt, 1778 - 1830

How easily do you get stuck in your regrets about things you did not do, missed out, failed upon if you look at how things might have been.

We can use the capacity that Hazlitt points out to make our life better or to get stuck in our regrets.

It’s an art we can cultivate. I call it Growing through Joy.

Read more

What the mother sings to the cradle
goes all the way down to the coffin.

Henry Ward Beecher, 1813 - 1887 points out the destiny of life if we don’t take action to become conscious of the programming of life. Our chance and privilege today is that there are many options to become aware whast the mother sang to the cradle and to change course.

I offer a range of support :

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

Visioform Personal Growth Resources

To find true love in relationships you first need to find that love in yourself.

If you do not know or appreciate your own value, you make yourself dependent on the appreciation and love of others. You need others to fill yourself not on the sexual level as before but on the emotional-mental realm. You demand appreciation, identity and self-confidence. You enter the relationship as somebody who needs love rather than somebody who is willing to give love.

On the interpersonal level, you look for somebody, who compliments you, stabilises your self worth and satisfies your needs. According to the law of attraction you fall in love with somebody, who looks for the same.

The dilemma is that two dependent people who are attracted to each other for the satisfaction of their dependency needs are not in the position to fulfil each other’s wants. They cling to each other like two burrs, without being able to give each other the nourishment of true love that each one longs for. The frustration of the lacking fulfilment leads to anger and hate.

Some spend their whole life playing this game of love and hate.

Others separate and look for a better substitute. Usually the exchange ends in the same drama, if you refuse to unfold your potential.

If you on the personal level have found yourself and you know your value, you also recognise and acknowledge it in others. When you are satisfied with yourself you don’t request the other person to change for your own sake.

On the contrary: You will support him/her to unfold his or her potential. You stand back, if necessary, or you stand at his/her side. You share your strengths and weaknesses, allow yourself to be vulnerable and in that way deepen the intimacy of the partnership.

The “yes” to the other person is a necessity to provide the safety to master a crisis together. The relationship is an instrument of growing together, and growth means an imbalance in time. This imbalance however does not endanger the relationship, but releases the potential for creative solutions.

Does this sound like “impossible”? Believe me, it is NOT. But, yes, it is work.

Here is a range of support for you how to get there:

Get the free course on how to improve your self-esteem.
Get the free course on how to create healthy relationships.

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy
The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

If you want a professional back-up, I offer a distance course on love starting February 7

Is your glass of life half full or half empty?

That depends entirely on you. There are many things that happen in your life, some good, some bad, some easy, some hard. But your life is about you and the choices you make. It is not about what happens to you and around you; it is about how you react to those events.

I offer a free course on POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS FOR MONEY, LOVE AND HEALTH

The course provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the importance of positive affirmations for a self empowered and fulfilled life
• how to shift negative mind talk around health, love and money
• how to create your own positive beliefs

How about a book that helps people to move beyond the negative view of life into inner abundance, joy and fulfillment?

The book Growing through Joy provides you with tools for transformation on the mental, emotional and physical level.

To move beyond suffering, learn to

• breathe and pulse in your natural way to build up your energy level
• connect with your Higher Self
• remove blockages to your fulfilment
• let go of the past and live in the here and now
• stop being a victim
• get clear on your vision and goals in life
• understand the higher meaning of painful life experiences and to use them to build your inner strength
• stop hurting yourself
• broaden your consciousness and increase your practical intelligence
• set clear boundaries for your protection
• let go of painful childhood experiences
• know your limitations and how to expand them
• improve your physical health and energy level
• release tensions and relax deeply
• see through your own games and the games others play
• use the power of your mind to create the reality that you want
• use the power of your inner guide for direction
• make powerful choices that magically draw into your life the resources you need
• change the monsters of your life (fears, terror, anger, inner criticism) into allies

Never doubt
that a small group
of thoughtful, committed citizens
can change the world.
Indeed, it’s the only thing
that ever has.

Margaret Mead, 1901 - 1978

I offer books, free articles and a free course with suggestions of what you can do to cope with such a situation.

The free course on Creating healthy relationships provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the difference between delight and fright in relationships
• the difference between co-dependent and healthy relationships skills
• how to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in relationships
• how to overcome codependent patterns and develop healthy relationship skills

Register here

As abusive relationships are so deeply rooted and supported through cultural myth, you may need extra help in understanding the dynamics of them and in shifting the energetic patterns that hold the persecutor or victim position in place so that you can develop healthy relationship patterns and communication skills.

In my Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’ you find a comprehensive description of the different stages of love with its own qualities and challenges to give you a broader view of the context of healthy relationships. You will also find a hands-on manual in this book on how to strengthen a positive Self

As a response to this situation, I have also explored with great success the use of distance courses which aim to develop and strengthen your positive Self, to recognise and transform negative life patterns, to access your inner resources and to use them to live a selfempowered, healthy, meaningful and fulfilled life.

Check here for more information

Forty years of research, work with thousands of people from all over the world and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation have taught me that many people resist doing what would be good for them.

This resistance has many reasons. There are three major reasons that I have come across

1. Christian values program you for suffering.

They are so deeply rooted that they are hard to see and even harder to overcome.

My Ebook “Beyond Suffering” gives you deep insights why we are so stuck on suffering

2. The faster, the better. Our consumer society trains you for ‘quickies’.

In my experience, changing deep-rooted beliefs and habits cannot be done in minutes. It takes a focused and continuous effort.

The Ebook provides the tools how to build your physical and inner strength so that you develop the necessary stamina to move beyond suffering.

3. Our medical and psychotherapeutic system are based on Newtonian principles.

Have you ever wondered why all your work on the physical, emotional and mental level hasn’t really changed basic patterns in your life?

The reason is that energetic patterns hold physical symptoms, emotional disturbances and negative belief systems in place.

For basic shifts to happen your body-mind-system needs rewiring so that all your work gets integrated and synthesised on a higher level of frequency.

The Ebook provides the understanding and the tools how to shift the resonance with life-depleting energy patterns and create a higher level of coherence that we experience as well-being, joy and fulfilment

Christian values, consumer values and Newtonian principles for our health are the bad news.

The good news is: We got other choices.

You want to know which ones? Read more

If you are caught in an abusive relationship what can you do to break the cycle?

The first step is to realise that such a relationship is NOT an expression of love but of power and violence that undermines the self worth and trust in life and may lead to depression, illness and increased alcohol and drug use

As the dynamic in abusive relationships tend to exclude the outer world in course of time, it’s vital to step out of this dynamic and start to talk with others about it.

Talking to others who have had similar experiences can be a life-changing step as it confirms your perception and will help you to trust yourself and your own experiences. There are women’s and men’s help lines that you find on the Internet, or you may consult with your local medical or mental health agencies.

Read more

Within abusive relationships, both genders can take either role or switch between the roles. A persecutor has been a victim before he became a persecutor, and a victim can easily switch into a persecutor often in order to protect him or herself from becoming a victim again.

Abuser and victim share basic characteristics: low self-esteem, insecurity, reluctance or fear to take responsibility for their own life, lack of emotional support and appreciation as children and the sense of being a failure without a mate.

Abusive relationships can be as subtle like brainwashing the partner through verbal attacks, demeaning, criticising or ridiculing him or her or as raw as physical or sexual violence. Alcohol or drugs often trigger this explosive response.

Read more

Behind every working woman
is an enormous pile of unwashed laundry.

Barbara Dale

If you want more from life, check out the free courses

You can choose to improve your self-esteem, explore your vision and life’s purpose, shift negative attitudes towards money, love and health or learn, how to create healthy relationships

Six sessions each guide you through rewarding tasks

Register here for free

Let us not be too particular:
it is better to have old
secondhand diamonds
than none at all.

Mark Twain, 1835 - 1910

We often forget our privileges in life and focus on what’s missing instead of realising the blessings in our lifes.

That’s why I focus a whole chapter in my Book ‘Growing through Joy’ on Gratitude

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The best measure of a man’s honesty
isn’t his income tax return.
It’s the zero adjust on his bathroom scale.

- Arthur C. Clarke

Enjoy all the sweets of this time and yet, stay honest with with the scale. It’s all a question of the right measure