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Jim Whitaker points our attention to the fact that life is not about conquering nature outside but our nature inside

You never conquer a mountain.
Mountains can’t be conquered;
you conquer yourself -
your hopes, your fears.

Conquering ourselves seems to be much more challenging for most people than the outer world.

We get stuck in old patterns, beliefs and habits.

My Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’ will show you how you can identify those patterns and shift out of them

You will discover

• The difference it makes when you say YES: YES to life, to the Self, to the other person, to your community, to human values and to the union with life and the challenges that you have to face in making these choices
• How the creation of your own story keeps you in bondage and how you can change it
• How self-forgiveness can set you free
• The difference between guilt feelings and responsibility
• The difference between a victim and a victim attitude
• The illusion of romantic love, how it makes you unhappy and how you can move beyond it
• The secret of true sharing
• The power of counting your blessings
• The balance of giving and receiving and how you can attain it
• The spiral nature of the process of life
• How you can use love as a growth process
• How you can use your life patterns as signposts for a fulfilled life

Read more

Our memory has a tendency to draw together events in such a way that our dignity is guaranteed. And the more frequently we tell our story, the more we are convinced of its truth.

I remember a carved wooden doll, which I loved dearly as a child. Relatives from Canada had sent me a “proper” doll, a real treasure in Germany at the beginning of the fifties. She had hair to be combed; she could say “mom,” she wore a ball-dress and had an everyday-dress to change into. Yet despite all these advantages, she could not compete with my wooden doll whose body was handy and robust and whose limbs swung at the nails, which joined them to the trunk. And most important, I loved her.

One day, this precious doll disappeared and was recalled to memory only thirty years later during my psychoanalysis. Psychoanalysis and therapies in general tend to plough through the ground on its shadow side, searching for memories which can be held responsible for unfulfilled dreams and wishes, for the failure of plans and projects, and one’s own deficiencies or life hardships.

And here it was. The memory, the quintessential proof of how little my mother had loved me, and appreciated and honored my needs. One day, SHE had burnt the doll. Could anything have better expressed her relationship to me than this act of carelessness? And yes! During the psychoanalysis I progressed to the point of counting this as an oversight and not as intended malevolence. It was a step in the direction of forgiveness, but not yet a reconciliation.

You want to know what happened?

Read on in a few days or get a copy of my Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’

Suffering can be the result of the daily little disasters that for many people is a way to feel alive. For some is it the only familiar way how to participate in life.

Suffering can also be a quiet accuse that life is unjust and hard. In such a case, you may feel like a victim of the circumstances. As a victim, you give your power to the circumstances.

We suffer when we lose a loved one. It is important at this point to distinguish between the pain over the loss and suffering. Pain is a natural reaction to loss. The pain passes, if you allow yourself to mourn the loss. After such active mourning you turn back to life.

Guilt feelings or rage against the injustice of the world feed suffering. If you do not recognise and acknowledge these feelings the suffering then can turn into a victim position.

A victim position differs from a victim situation by re-creating a victim situation in the mind. All the thoughts and feelings connected with it then influence the perspective on life.

A victim situation happens in life. Out of such a situation the victim position emerges with all the associated feelings of powerless rage and guilt feelings which then gets repeated in life.

How can you move beyond suffering?

Find out through my Ebook : Beyond Suffering

In that Ebook, I outline the principles and steps that over centuries and across cultures have proven to be successful in moving beyond suffering.

How is it
that we remember
the least triviality
that happens to us,
and yet not remember
how often we have recounted it
to the same person?

François, Duc de La Rochefoucauld, 1613 - 1680

Lauraly helps us to see the advantage in each challenge with her words

“When the going seems all uphill, just think of the view from the top.”

It may take practice to not allow those situations to bog you down but to know that you will come out the other end and get a new view when you have gone through the thick end.

My book Growing through Joy provides you with tools for coming out at the top

Through hands-on instructions, you learn to

• breathe and pulse in your natural way to build up your energy level
• connect with your Higher Self
• remove blockages to your fulfilment
• let go of the past and live in the here and now
• stop being a victim
• get clear on your vision and goals in life
• understand the higher meaning of painful life experiences and to use them to build your inner strength
• stop hurting yourself
• broaden your consciousness and increase your practical intelligence
• set clear boundaries for your protection
• let go of painful childhood experiences
• know your limitations and how to expand them
• improve your physical health and energy level
• release tensions and relax deeply
• see through your own games and the games others play
• use the power of your mind to create the reality that you want
• use the power of your inner guide for direction
• make powerful choices that magically draw into your life the resources you need
• change the monsters of your life (fears, terror, anger, inner criticism) into allies

You will find the following free courses

• Overcoming depression and improving self esteem
• Positive affirmations for money, love and health
• Finding your vision and living your life’s purpose
• Creating healthy relationships

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Some people are great in designing beautiful life purposes and plans, but if it comes down to bring them into reality, they never get done. You may know this phenomenon from all the great New Year resolutions that never come true.

Do you have the will power, persistence or desire to manifest your life purpose? Are you just lacking the information or experience how to realise it?

I offer books, free articles and a free course with instructions of how to find your life purpose, set goals and take the necessary steps.

If you feel you don’t work well just on your own, I offer distance courses on Selfgrowth, money, love, health, other areas or life in general. You can find and set goals for those areas that are relevant for you.

Check out all the information here

People travel to wonder at the height of mountains,
at the huge waves of the sea,
at the long courses of rivers,
at the vast compass of the ocean,
at the circular motion of the stars;
and they pass by themselves without wondering.

Augustine of Hippo, 354 - 430

Those who can command themselves
command others.

William Hazlitt, 1778 - 1830

What has been true 200 years ago is still valid today. If we can’t command ourselves we are prone to project our own deficiencies on to others and fight them there.

The reality that we see out there is in us. If we change our inner reality we change the reality out there.
An important change is to shift our perspective from a negative point of view to a positive one.

Forty years of research, work with thousands of people from all over the world and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation have taught me that many people resist doing what would be good for them.

This resistance has many reasons. There are three major reasons that I have come across

1. Christian values program you for suffering.

They are so deeply rooted that they are hard to see and even harder to overcome.

My Ebook “Beyond Suffering” gives you deep insights why we are so stuck on suffering

2. The faster, the better. Our consumer society trains you for ‘quickies’.

In my experience, changing deep-rooted beliefs and habits cannot be done in minutes. It takes a focused and continuous effort.

The Ebook provides the tools how to build your physical and inner strength so that you develop the necessary stamina to move beyond suffering.

3. Our medical and psychotherapeutic system are based on Newtonian principles.

Have you ever wondered why all your work on the physical, emotional and mental level hasn’t really changed basic patterns in your life?

The reason is that energetic patterns hold physical symptoms, emotional disturbances and negative belief systems in place.

For basic shifts to happen your body-mind-system needs rewiring so that all your work gets integrated and synthesised on a higher level of frequency.

Christian values, consumer values and Newtonian principles for our health are the bad news.

The good news is: We got other choices.

You want to know which ones?

Read more

Winter times are dark times, times where we lack light and are prone to go into depression. This doesn’t need to be this way. There are many effective ways to deal with depression.

You can use exercises to increase the energy level which has a major impact in dealing with depression. Depressed people mostly use shallow upper breathing. The chest is collapsed and in breath seems to be difficult. The Latin word for “breathing in”? is inspirare, a word which we find in inspiration and to inspire. If the breath is shallow, you may lack inspiration. Exercises help to increase the breath and in this way the level of inspiration.

You can learn to control your thoughts and feelings and replace the typical negative thought habits that focus on problems and faults with a realistic appraisal of the small successes and joys of life that we all experience no matter how challenging the conditions may be.

You may explore new activities and interests that give you satisfaction, help you to feel good about yourself, and keep the mind off problems and negative thoughts and emotions. On top of it, they open the door to meet like minded people, improve conversation skills and help in making and keeping friends.

You can replace bad habits of blaming, criticising and expecting the worst through assertiveness skills, good problem-solving skills, positive thinking and humour.

Life is change.
Growth is optional.
Choose wisely.

Karen Kaiser Clark

Most people get forced by the hardship of life to continue to grow.

There is an easier way.

Choose to grow through Joy

The Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering’ will help you to discover the four pillars of how to grow joy in your life

• The difference it makes when you say YES: YES to life, to the Self, to the other person, to your community, to human values and to the union with life and the challenges that you have to face in making these choices
• How the creation of your own story keeps you in bondage and how you can change it
• How self-forgiveness can set you free
• The difference between guilt feelings and responsibility
• The difference between a victim and a victim attitude
• The illusion of romantic love, how it makes you unhappy and how you can move beyond it
• The secret of true sharing
• The power of counting your blessings
• The balance of giving and receiving and how you can attain it
• The spiral nature of the process of life
• How you can use love as a growth process
• How you can use your life patterns as signposts for a fulfilled life

Have a taste

There are people
who put their dreams
in a little box and say,
Yes, I’ve got dreams,
of course I’ve got dreams.
Then they put the box away
and bring it out once in awhile
to look in it, and yep,
they’re still there.

Erma Louise Bombeck, 1927 - 1996

Forty years of research, work with thousands of people from all over the world and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation have taught me that many people resist doing what would be good for them.

This resistance has many reasons. There are three major reasons that I have come across

1. Christian values program you for suffering.

They are so deeply rooted that they are hard to see and even harder to overcome.

My Ebook “Beyond Suffering” gives you deep insights why we are so stuck on suffering

2. The faster, the better. Our consumer society trains you for ‘quickies’.

In my experience, changing deep-rooted beliefs and habits cannot be done in minutes. It takes a focused and continuous effort.

The Ebook provides the tools how to build your physical and inner strength so that you develop the necessary stamina to move beyond suffering.

3. Our medical and psychotherapeutic system are based on Newtonian principles.

Have you ever wondered why all your work on the physical, emotional and mental level hasn’t really changed basic patterns in your life?

The reason is that energetic patterns hold physical symptoms, emotional disturbances and negative belief systems in place.

For basic shifts to happen your body-mind-system needs rewiring so that all your work gets integrated and synthesised on a higher level of frequency.

The Ebook provides the understanding and the tools how to shift the resonance with life-depleting energy patterns and create a higher level of coherence that we experience as well-being, joy and fulfilment

Christian values, consumer values and Newtonian principles for our health are the bad news.

The good news is: We got other choices.

You want to know which ones? Read more

Marshall McLuhan reminds us of our responsibility for the earth that each one of us carries

There are no passengers on spaceship earth.
We are all crew.

Are you willing and able to take on this responsibility?

I offer a range of support :

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

Visioform Personal Growth Resources

Every time
I’ve done something
that doesn’t feel right,
it’s ended up
not being right.

Mario Cuomo

We spend January 1 walking through our lives, room by room,
drawing up a list of work to be done, cracks to be patched.

Maybe this year, to balance the list, we ought to walk
through the rooms of our lives … not looking for flaws, but
for potential.

- Ellen Goodman

If you want to unfold your potential this year, here is your a range of support to get there:

Get the free course on how to improve your self-esteem.

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy
The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

The danger of the past was
that men became slaves.
The danger of the future is
that men may become robots.

Eric Fromm

May you live each day of this year full of conscious and vibrating joy, even in uncertain times

With best wishes
Ulla Sebastian