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There are many different levels how we can perceive and experience love.

On the level of ethics or principles you will be able to differentiate the different levels with their options and challenges. This level enables you to distance yourself from yourself.

In practice this means, that you can observe, like a neutral observer how you have handled the options and challenges of love on the different levels of development, and what kind of thought forms and behaviour may even today hinder you to give and receive true love. As you are not completely identified with your own thoughts and responses anymore, you can choose how you may best overcome the obstacles.

If your partner for instance would like more room for himself, you will not simply react with fears of loss and trying to hold the partner, but you observe the responses in you and you use your competence to develop another way of dealing with such situations.

With the consciousness of the fifth level, you attain the freedom to direct your thoughts and behaviour in such a way that it leads to your chosen goals.

If you integrate all that you have learned on all the levels, you become an embodiment of true love that spreads to all people. This feeling of universal love is the all-encompassing feeling of compassion that Buddha spoke about. It is the wish to ease the suffering of people helping them to understand the transitory nature of this world

Each level has its own qualities and challenges, and it will take a different length of time to come to terms with them.

You find a comprehensive description in my book: Growing through Joy or, if you prefer, in the Ebook version: Beyond suffering.

Get a taste of it here

“Thank you for sharing this lovely course with us. The course was very enlightening and instructional. I had already been practicing a lot of the techniques taught in the course and it was very validating to know that I am on the right track

Techniques like positive affirmations and befriending your inner critic is exactly what I needed to hear at the moment. I have suffered from severe depression for the last 3 years and am struggling to break free from these destructive thought patterns. These techniques are very useful to me to help me to break free from these patterns and habits. I will cherish these teachings always.

Thank you again for this wonderful course.

Love n Hugs
S.P.”

You can choose to improve your self-esteem, explore your vision and life’s purpose or shift negative attitudes towards money, love and health

Six sessions each guide you through rewarding tasks

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Consciousness is a tool that allows you to see through the illusions and confusions that make you prone for suffering.

Unfortunately, we are often blind for our good fortunes in life

To expand your consciousness, the e-book ‘Beyond suffering’ will assist you to discover

• The four pillars of how to grow joy in your life
• The difference it makes when you say YES: YES to life, to the Self, to the other person, to your community, to human values and to the union with life and the challenges that you have to face in making these choices
• How the creation of your own story keeps you in bondage and how you can change it
• How self-forgiveness can set you free
• The difference between guilt feelings and responsibility
• The difference between a victim and a victim attitude
• The illusion of romantic love, how it makes you unhappy and how you can move beyond it
• The secret of true sharing
• The power of counting your blessings
• The balance of giving and receiving and how you can attain it
• The spiral nature of the process of life
• How you can use love as a growth process
• How you can use your life patterns as signposts for a fulfilled life

You can get a taste with this free e-book

There are no secrets to success.
It is the result of preparation,
hard work,
and learning from failure.

Colin Powell

The free course on Creating healthy relationships provides you with information, instructions and tips on

• the difference between delight and fright in relationships
• the difference between co-dependent and healthy relationships skills
• how to evaluate your strengths and weaknesses in relationships
• how to overcome codependent patterns and develop healthy relationship skills

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It’s only when we truly know and understand
that we have a limited time on earth -
and that we have no way of knowing
when our time is up -
that we will begin to live each day to the fullest,
as if it was the only one we had.

Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

Are you living life to the fullest? Would you like to get more out of it?

I offer a range of support :

Get one of the free courses on how to improve your self-esteem, create healthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

Learn more about life-issues we all deal with by checking out the articles in the section ‘life-issues in focus’ and publications

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

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Ambrose Bierce, a deft satirist, which earned him the name Bitter Bierce, tells us in his precise and spare use of his language what anger will do for us

Speak when you are angry,
and you will make the best speech
you will ever regret.

You have another choice, the choice to live and express your joy. This is a choice you will not regret.

My Growing through Joy provides you with the necessary tools.
Learn to

• breathe and pulse in your natural way to build up your energy level
• connect with your Higher Self
• remove blockages to your fulfilment
• let go of the past and live in the here and now
• stop being a victim
• get clear on your vision and goals in life
• understand the higher meaning of painful life experiences and to use them to build your inner strength
• stop hurting yourself
• broaden your consciousness and increase your practical intelligence
• set clear boundaries for your protection
• let go of painful childhood experiences
• know your limitations and how to expand them
• improve your physical health and energy level
• release tensions and relax deeply
• see through your own games and the games others play
• use the power of your mind to create the reality that you want
• use the power of your inner guide for direction
• make powerful choices that magically draw into your life the resources you need
• change the monsters of your life (fears, terror, anger, inner criticism) into allies

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Freedom hath a thousand charms to show,
That slaves however contented never know.

- William Cowper, 1731 - 1800

Is your self esteem low? Are you not living up to your potential?

Then let’s have a look at the messages that you received as a child.

The way how you see yourself is closely related to the way how your parents, peers and teachers saw you when you were a child.

The messages that you received may have been so strong that they seemed like the truth. I will list the statements that are popular in our culture.

In the following, MARK THE STATEMENTS THAT HAVE AN EFFECT ON YOU when you read it now. You can choose between a strong, medium or low effect. If there is no effect just leave it open

You can’t do that
You aren’t good enough
You’ll never make it
Who do you think you are?
Don’t rock the boat
Others know/are better than you
Play life safe
If you want to be loved, earn it first
If you would just be like ,
You can’t trust life/people
Don’t! It’s dangerous/too risky/unsafe
Why try/ Why bother/ It’s no good
Life is just a struggle/ is meaningless
It’s your entire fault
You are too much

Have a look at the list. How many did you mark? How do you feel about it? How often is your inner voice now giving you these messages?

Did you notice how the energy just drops down when you hear anything like that? Every time your inner voice is repeating these old messages, your energy will drop down and you will feel depressed.

Such sentences weaken the body-mind-system, no matter if others say them to you or if you now repeat them to yourself. For the brain and your organism, it doesn’t make any difference. This is the bad news.

The good news is: You can change those messages. They are not the truth although they may feel like it when you look at your life’s experience. The world will reflect back to you what you believe about yourself. And that’s equally true for depressive and life-enhancing beliefs.

Believe, me, THE KEY TO CHANGE YOUR EXPERIENCES IS not out there. It’s IN YOU. It’s in the way how you see life.

I want you to see life at its very best. This will not only make your life better but have a positive impact on all of us. We are all connected.

You wonder how? Read more in my Ebook ‘Beyond Suffering.‘ You can get a taste of it on my site

And here you get access to a free course to improve your self esteem

If something is worth doing, it will be tough, there will be challenges, there will be setbacks.

And yes, if something is worth doing, the result will be worth the effort, making you fulfilled and happy.

If you need help to overcome the roadblocks, I offer a range of support.

Get the free course on how to improve your self-esteem, create halthy relationships, follow your bliss and learn to go for what you really want.

If you love to learn through books, here are two choices

The pocket book version: Growing through Joy

The ebook version: Beyond Suffering

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Freya Stark invokes the spirit of adventure

To awaken quite alone in a strange town
is one of the most pleasant sensations in the world.

You are surrounded by adventure.
You have no idea what is in store for you,
but you will, if you are wise and know the art of travel,
let yourself go on the stream of the unknown and accept
whatever comes in the spirit
in which the gods may offer it.

I know many who would not find that a pleasant but a threatening experience

To be open to the unknown is not that easy, isn’t it?
It takes courage and experience and a willingness to grow

How about growing through Joy?

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There are two ways of spreading light;
to be the candle or
the mirror that reflects it.

- Edith Wharton, 1862 - 1937

Are you suffering from depression in this dark winter times?

There are many reasons why you might feel depressed.

You may undergo major life changes such as divorce, separation, loss of a job, retirement or moving town. Or you may feel unhappy about your marital situation or fear physical and mental problems of old age.

Depression may also occur without any outer trigger. Perfectionism, low self worth, mood swings, dissatisfaction with life, the chronic use of alcohol or other drugs or even prescribed medications may lead to depression.

Read more

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How about improving life?

You can choose to

• improve your self-esteem,
• explore your vision and life’s purpose,
• shift negative attitudes towards money, love and health or
• create healthy relationships

Six sessions each guide you through rewarding tasks

Sign up here

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Blessed is he
who has learned to admire but not envy,
to follow but not imitate,
to praise but not flatter,
and to lead but not manipulate.

- William Arthur Ward, 1921 - 1994