Life Issues In-Focus - Beyond Suffering

Are you tired of suffering? Find out what you can do

If you had the choice between joy and suffering in your life, which would you choose? You would probably say joy. But think about it. Would you really be willing to give up your drama for the sake of joy? Or do you think that joy and suffering can exist side by side?

They cannot. Suffering and joy exclude each other. Suffering is fed by feelings of self-devaluation and failure. They confirm one's notion of worthlessness and legitimate one's suffering.

It is important to distinguish between suffering and pain. Pain signalizes an injury or an imbalance in our system. Suffering is a fixation on the pain, an attitude of ignorance or an attempt to find an identity.

For many people their life drama is the basis of their identity. Their aim in life is to gain recognition for the suffering that they have endured. This is a very human and legitimate need. The problem is that recognising the suffering does not cure it. On the contrary.

The knowledge that it gets you attention and compassion from others gives the suffering additional value. It becomes a tool for gaining affection. The suffering is thereby strengthened, and it becomes even more difficult to free yourself from its grip.

Suffering can be the result of the daily little disasters that for many people is a way to feel alive. For some is it the only familiar way how to participate in life.

Suffering can also be a quiet accuse that life is unjust and hard. In such a case, you may feel like a victim of the circumstances. As a victim, you give your power to the circumstances.

We suffer when we lose a loved one. It is important at this point to distinguish between the pain over the loss and suffering. Pain is a natural reaction to loss. The pain passes, if you allow yourself to mourn the loss. After such active mourning you turn back to life.

Guilt feelings or rage against the injustice of the world feed suffering. If you do not recognise and acknowledge these feelings the suffering then can turn into a victim position.

A victim position differs from a victim situation by re-creating a victim situation in the mind. All the thoughts and feelings connected with it then influence the perspective on life.

A victim situation happens in life. Out of such a situation the victim position emerges with all the associated feelings of powerless rage and guilt feelings which then gets repeated in life.

How can you move beyond suffering?

An important step is to understand the motives of suffering. Is the suffering the consolidation of an old pain, a victim position, part of the identity or the possibility to get attention?

The understanding of the suffering helps, but is not enough to overcome it. Other techniques and methods are necessary to dissolve habitual ways of thinking and behaviour and to establish new beliefs and actions.

In my book: Growing through Joy, I have outlined the principles and steps that over centuries and across cultures have proven to be successful in moving beyond suffering.

I use modern knowledge of quantum physics and brain research and old eastern knowledge to change the resonance with life-depleting habits and destructive thought forms and behaviour in favour of life-enhanincing life strategies.

Some people just don't know how their life could be different. They are lacking an idea, model or objective. They do not know, who they would like to be, what they would like to do and what they would like to have.

A simple reason is the lack of exercise. In such a case, you will find instructions in my book or you can register for a free course on "Life purpose and vision". To get there, click on free courses in the main menu

In my Ebook: Beyond suffering (Printversion: Growing through Joy) you will find a comprehensive understanding of the background fo this suffering

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