Codependent Relationships

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Dr. Ulla Sebastian; Visioform.com

Codependent relationships are predominantly the domain of women who are engaging in personal relationships with someone who needs help and support. They offer themselves as 'helpers' and 'saviours' and turn into angry persecutors if their attempt to save the 'other' fails which is usually the case.

This dynamic in codependent relationships has been described as the drama triangle being played by two people who change the roles of victim, saviour and persecutor.

The term codependent relationship was traditionally used for an alcoholic and his or her partner but has lately been applied to a broad range of people who need help such as drug users, criminals, sex addicts, mentally ill, physically ill, and even workaholics who need someone to support them while they "do their thing."

Codependent Relationships are as much a cultural as a personal phenomenon. On the cultural scale, women get taught to be "good" and care for other people's needs more than for our own. As a woman, you usually did not get taught the difference between being good and codependent.

On a personal level, codependent partners have an obsessive need for affection, attention and affirmation that usually is the result of a neglect of basic needs for being nurtured, protected and appreciated or even worse, of abuse where boundaries got invaded and self expression threatened or punished.

If you wonder about the difference between being 'good' or codependent check the degree of involvement and the amount of pain you feel. Ask yourself:

* Do you always "have to do something" to help your partner?

* Do you feel burdened by the problems of your partner? Would you like to leavem and yet you don't dare to?

* Are you holding on to your partner even if he has repeated affairs or abandons you while "working at the office"?

If you answer 'yes' to those questions, you are codependent and need to detach, start to manage only your life, and be good to yourself.

This is easier said than done. In my work with codependent relationships during the last 35 years I discovered that most people do need extra help in shifting the energetic patterns that underlie codependent habitual emotions and responses and in building up healthy relationship patterns and communication skills.

As a response to this situation, I have explored with great success the use of distance courses which aim to develop and strengthen your positive Self, to recognise and transform negative life patterns, to access your inner resources and to use them to live a selfempowered, healthy, meaningful and fulfilled life.

With this work, I am delighted to share forty years of research, work with thousands of people from all over the world and a lifelong experience of Selfgrowth and transformation with you to assist you in overcoming codependent patterns faster, less painful and more effective.

Distance courses work with wave patterns that reach beyond time and space. Personal presence is not required to fully benefit from it. You can sit comfortably at home and pace the process according to your needs.

During the course, you have a community of peers in the form of a forum and chat with whom you can share your questions, goals and results to deepen and enrich your experience

The benefit of these courses for you will be to

• Get clear on what you want for your own life
• Become aware of cultural patterns of thinking, feeling and behaviour that keep you in unhealthy relationships
• Gain insight into the underlying structure of codependent patterns
• Let go of life-depleting attitudes and habits that don't serve you any longer
• Have your resonance transformed and optimised for the attitudes, thought patterns, feelings and behaviours that will drive you towards a self empowered, healthy and fulfilled life
• Learn skills to manage your everyday life
• Have professional and peer support to achieve what makes your life fulfilled

Changes will occur naturally, without effort and struggle. You can choose the pace that best fits your needs.

You are also very welcome to activate your own self help resources. I offer books, free articles and a free course with suggestions of how to overcome codependency.

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